7 Points to safety

The Seven Core Principles:
1. Nurture Your Belief in YourselfWhen you believe in yourself, you'll trust your wisdom and your strength. You'll trust your perceptions and you'll believe you have the right to your emotional and physical well-being. You're much more likely to do what you need to protect yourself.
2. Understand Reality --- and FACE ITWhen I first wrote this, I wrote just "understand reality". Then it occurred to me, almost like a blinding flash, that many folks understand reality, but don't really face it full on. Completely see and accept reality and you'll be miles closer to being safe and being in charge of your life.
3. Stay AwareWe might almost say "Stay awake." We're all often daydreaming, I think. Stay aware, wherever you are, whatever you are doing. This is really just the same as the idea of "being present" - leading not only to being safer, but potentially to greater enjoyment of the moment by moment experience of being alive.
4. Trust Your IntuitionI now always say in classes, "If you ignore or forget everything else I say today, remember this one thing... If your intuition is warning you, there IS something wrong. Trust it, and act to increase your safety." That's how strongly I believe in the importance of intuition. (Anyone who hasn't read Gavin de Becker's book "The Gift of Fear" on this really should.)
5. Develop Your Body's Language of StrengthLooking strong and confident makes you MUCH less likely to be targeted.
6. Set BoundariesOne woman, after doing our weekend Intensive, ended literally years of office harassment with a couple of sentences. I don't remember exactly the words she told us but it was something along the lines of, "That is degrading and offensive. It's harassment. I don't like it and no woman does. You - will - never - speak - to - me - like - that - again." (All spoken with 100% congruence and the eyes of cold fire.) We have heard so many times that a just a few words was all that was necessary to end a situation, be it harassment or potential attack.
7. Fight BackApplying all your wisdom and the ideas above makes the possibility of attack much less likely. But it still might happen. And if it does, as we have said many times, there is only one way to fight - 100%. And remember, at that point you are not "defending" as such (in the sense of reacting to each of his attacking moves), you are now "counter-attacking" &Mac247; completely taking control with a force of energy like a cross between a pit-bull mother defending her young, a grizzly bear, a tiger and a Klingon.
Don't hold back.Don't hold back your caring and belief in yourself.Don't hold back the wisdom of your awareness and intuition.Don't hold back your strength and courage in your body, voice and fighting spirit.Don't hold back.If you let yourself go, you can take care of just about anything.